Humping & Grinding

How to do it

Use an object like a firm pillow, a rolled-up blanket, or a bolster. There are two primary ways to position yourself:

1. Straddling: Place the pillow on the bed and sit/lie on top of it. Adjust it so it presses firmly against your vulva, then use your hips to grind back and forth or in circular motions.
2. Side-Lying (Syntribation): Lie on your side with a long pillow between your legs. Squeeze your thighs together to create pressure against the labia and move your pelvis or the pillow to create friction. To increase intensity, try wrapping the pillow in a towel for a rougher texture, or tuck a vibrating toy underneath the top layer of the fabric.

Why it works

Grinding, or humping, provides a unique form of “weighted” stimulation. Unlike the precise touch of a finger, a pillow applies broad, consistent pressure across the entire clitoral complex and labia simultaneously. The use of larger muscle groups (hips, glutes, and thighs) allows for a powerful, rhythmic buildup that mimics the physical exertion of intercourse. For many, the combination of physical pressure and the freedom of hands-free movement leads to a more “total-body” orgasmic experience.